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Advice: How to Deal With Wedding Guilt - San Antonio Wedding Planner

Updated: Jul 6, 2023

I was in the line at a Starbucks one morning and the lady at the window took that time to strike up a convo with me as she beeped my phone and handed me some napkins. She asked me, "What are you up to today? Doing anything fun?"

It was a fun day, so I told her, "Yes actually I'm a wedding planner and we're tasting wedding food today."

Bride in white is at bridal shower and is the center of attention while opening presents. She smiles and looks grateful, without any wedding guilt in sight!
Bride is opening presents at the Bridal shower.

Her mouth dropped and she handed me my grande-brown-sugar-oatmilk-shaken-expresso as she told me, "That sounds like fun! My best friend is getting married and I don't even know if I want one. It's sooo much money. I'd much wrather go on a honeymoon!"

My reply was: "I hear that..." because I do! These weddings suck the savings outta ya. "I see it all the time! But like I tell a lot of my clients: when else are you going to have everyone you love in the same room together? You know? That's why I do it."

It's true!! Weddings are special! Nobody should be feeling guilty for wanting one.

Bride is getting ready with her mother in the bridal suite. She is wearing her white dress and veil, smiling very happily. Her mom is fixing the back of her dress.
Bride is getting ready with her mother in the bridal suite.

First of all:

Every. Single. Person. deserves a wedding. Not only a wedding, but a wedding that they want.

If the Covid pandemic has taught me anything, it's taught me that gathering together with your people is a luxury in time, and the moments are priceless. At one point we were all scared to hug each other and now we're allowed to again.

Bride is holding a big bridal bouquet in her hands and is looking down at it. The picture cuts off the top off her head and focuses on the bouquet.
Bride is holding her bouquet on wedding day.

If you have been met with guilt, resentment, or feeling undeserving, let me give you the permission now to start feeling grateful, happy, and deserving of all the love, attention, and celebration happening in your life. You only get 1 short life to live where the experiences are universally felt, don't rob yourself of this experience by feeling guilty. Your wedding day is one of many experiences that people should feel hopeful and happy.

Weddings bring families together, they create long lasting memories. And seriously, what other time will you have to bring everyone who you love(and who is also living), under one roof? Such a beautiful time in your life ! Embrace the change and journey, it will all be over sooner than you think.

Stephanie Delgado of Sweet Gardenia Weddings is smiling at the camera. She is the writer of this blog.
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